Kids begin forming explicit memories around the 2-year mark. They don't remember concrete memories like we do as adults but instead have implicit memory. So what do they remember?
Kids, of all ages, remember when we show up and when we don't. When we listen to their words or just push their words aside. They remember how we react to different aspects of life even when they don't go exactly as planned. I came across these words and the resinated so deeply I just felt the need to share them with you.
"I’m raising average kids. They will not be going pro in any sport. They will not be the valedictorian. They will not be landing on the moon. And they will not be President. But I pray that they will be extraordinary at love. They will be the friend who makes homemade soup and delivers it when a family loses a loved one. They will always return their grocery carts. They will mow their neighbor’s lawn or shovel their snow-filled driveway just because. They will know how to listen—especially to those who need it most. They will make time to return phone calls. They will still send cards on birthdays. They will know how to forgive. They will be empathy givers. They will know how to say, “I’m sorry.” They will know how to act vulnerable and cry in someone else’s arms. Oh, and this one’s important—they’ll know how to love themselves by giving themselves grace, love, time off, and setting boundaries. Yup. I’m raising average kids. Average kids who will be extraordinary at LOVE."
Shared from Angela Anagnost-Repke, Writer
Here is what kids remember....
- The times you gave them the courage to try something new.
- When you taught by example and not just words.
- The times you made them feel safe (or the times you made them feel unsafe).
- Making time just for them.
- The way you interacted with your spouse.
- Words of affirmation AND your words of criticism.
- Family traditions.
Fishing requires patience. Fishing with a child requires the patience of a saint but the rewards are heavenly.